tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6157604130266547362.post7046312751485484545..comments2023-07-19T04:54:59.903-06:00Comments on Domestic Dork: Mommy Wars- The Battle of the BreastUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6157604130266547362.post-4169025783053145352009-07-12T19:47:43.710-06:002009-07-12T19:47:43.710-06:00I was one of those that HAD to formula feed. Not ...I was one of those that HAD to formula feed. Not because I didn't want to. I never was able to even try. I was taking medication that would go in the breast milk and they were unsure if it was harmful. I didn't want to take the chances. I always felt judged by other moms and especially by the media. Most mom's want to provide the best that they can for the children, and I was no exeption. I just hate the guilt that I was made to feel that I wasn't doing the best for my daughter.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6157604130266547362.post-33315321872300577532009-07-11T15:33:45.022-06:002009-07-11T15:33:45.022-06:00I like this post Holly. Everyone seems so rushed t...I like this post Holly. Everyone seems so rushed to feed babies solid foods. And I'll admit, I am excited and ready to feed him foods too, but I am waiting until 6 months. The facts and research says this is what's best!Samanthahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15898070917378988019noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6157604130266547362.post-413442940611533512009-07-10T22:18:22.706-06:002009-07-10T22:18:22.706-06:00Cami, I'm so sorry you never felt comfortable ...Cami, I'm so sorry you never felt comfortable getting the support you deserved. It's so hard to want help and feel like it can't be asked for. But I'm very glad to hear that you plan on giving it another go with your next little one. When things go well breastfeeding is an amazing thing (even if at times a hassle...Lu is teething and sometimes try to use me as a teether - OUCH!). It makes me feel very glad to see moms try again even after trouble the first (or second, or third) time!Holly @ Domestic Dorkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05588020192381538681noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6157604130266547362.post-72378873301619518272009-07-10T22:14:35.529-06:002009-07-10T22:14:35.529-06:00If people would stop being so hostile about the to...If people would stop being so hostile about the topic of breastfeeding, women like me that actually needed help and support might me able to find it instead of feeling like I was unable to bring up the subject with anyone for fear of being attacked. That is the reason I didn't succeed.Camihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16281780066685221260noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6157604130266547362.post-24899748888913648722009-07-10T21:52:29.437-06:002009-07-10T21:52:29.437-06:00I usually avoid reading blog posts about breastfee...I usually avoid reading blog posts about breastfeeding because the issue is so divided and people are very biased, but I want to thank you for how you phrased this post! I had difficulty nursing my daughter and by 4 months she was exclusively on formula, but looking back, I see that it had a lot to do with me having a bit of postpartum depression and conflicting information from lactaction consultants. I am still pro-breastfeeding and intend to use my new-found knowledge for my next child.Camihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16281780066685221260noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6157604130266547362.post-89319490383840857772009-07-10T20:50:53.395-06:002009-07-10T20:50:53.395-06:00I feel the need to point out again that I think th...I feel the need to point out again that I think the term "breast feeding Nazi" is incredibly offensive. Having studied the atrocities of the Shoah the only people I will use the term Nazi for are real Nazis. It's a personal crusade of mine to encourage people to not use the term lightly.Holly @ Domestic Dorkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05588020192381538681noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6157604130266547362.post-41502514925601187002009-07-10T13:55:12.836-06:002009-07-10T13:55:12.836-06:00Amen, I couldn't have said it better myself. I...Amen, I couldn't have said it better myself. I had a neighbor who was a breast feeding natzi who was always preaching to people on a pedestal. I have 3 kids and breast fed each for a year, but never talked about it. I never listened to the nurses or books that said to feed 10 minutes on one side and switch. That just seemed stupid to me and I later read in a book the benefits to emptying one side first. I have a friend who has to take seisure medicine and couldn't breastfeed because of it. I felt bad for her when people would look down on her not even knowing her story.<br />Can't we just play nice with each other?Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18308560277184475375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6157604130266547362.post-27385158833842769862009-07-10T12:26:03.546-06:002009-07-10T12:26:03.546-06:00What a great post!
I have three children, and foun...What a great post!<br />I have three children, and found it virtually impossible to breastfeed my first for many reasons (lack of support was a pretty big reason).<br /><br />I remember not only feeling disappointed that it wasn't working, but also made to feel incredibly guilty by OTHER MOTHERS.<br /><br />The early years of a childs life are difficult enough without mothers criticizing each others choices. *nods and steps off soapbox* lolKimmy @ kimmythingyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11618841750814941148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6157604130266547362.post-71193046529581461132009-07-10T00:50:36.591-06:002009-07-10T00:50:36.591-06:00you know there are many devisive topics amoung mom...you know there are many devisive topics amoung moms with babies and breastfeeding certainly is one of them! i do agree that there is too much misinformation and not enough quality supportive information out there for new moms...that truly is the key to success (well that, luck and perhaps a few other things!). hopefully as our culture continues to lean more towards breastfeeding becomming the norm (just a recent phenomenom after the switch to formula gained momentum), we'll have mothers, grandmothers, friends, etc. also there to lend very supporting hands.j o n ihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10554523693852880704noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6157604130266547362.post-86601761107087252552009-07-09T17:26:43.831-06:002009-07-09T17:26:43.831-06:00I wish I'd had my easy baby BEFORE my pain in...I wish I'd had my easy baby BEFORE my pain in the ass baby. Had I known that I could try to nurse again after the first horrible weeks I would have. Or if I'd known how incredibly easy and wonderful it would become I wouldn't have ever considered giving up on breastfeeding. But that's not how it worked out: Nolan could not latch, lost weight, cried, I cried, and a week later we started finger feeding pumped milk (with wee synringe). After a week of that I gave up the thought of breastfeeding and fed him pumped milk in a bottle instead. [pumping sucked, by the way]<br /><br />Every time breastfeeding was brought up or I read about it in Mothering, my heart BROKE. I felt like a total failure. I wanted to explain to everyone that it wasn't my fault. Ah well... <br /><br />Having a second baby who nurses, so happily, so heartily has healed a lot of that wound. But I do definitely see the divide among mothers and the need for more support before, during and after the 'learn to nurse' period of life. <br /><br />xoxo Holly! You rockNicolenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6157604130266547362.post-10478366537325684232009-07-09T17:03:42.445-06:002009-07-09T17:03:42.445-06:00Courtney: Thanks for sharing your story. It's ...Courtney: Thanks for sharing your story. It's good to hear you had support when faced with that tough scenario. And it's good to hear that you aren't letting your previous bad experience keep you from trying again!<br /><br />Katie: Yes, I admit it's a little over the top. In first world countries with clean water formula won't kill a baby like failure to use a car seat or leaving a babe in a hot car will. {In places with dirty water, or in poor families which dilute the formula because of cost it can lead to infant mortality.} However, I went ahead with the analogy because what I really want to get at is that it's not the norm for moms to outright not care about what's best for their baby. It happens, but it's not as prevalent as some people seem to think. Very, very few women who know all the benefits of breast milk and the risks of formula would simply refuse to give nursing a try. Plus, some (and let me emphasize SOME) women act like it is the end of the world for a mom to formula feed. Don't get me wrong, I think breast milk is FANTASTIC! And I think formula will never truly compare. <br />That said, I don't think breastfeeding is the be all, end all of being a good parent. And I, for one, think it's about time we stop blaming the MOMS when things don't work out. Especially since it serves no purpose and only ends up making moms feel like crap.<br />Wow, almost wrote a whole 'nother post there, didn't I?<br /><br />In other words: Yup. It *is* a bit over the top. ;)Holly @ Domestic Dorkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05588020192381538681noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6157604130266547362.post-91879514869810853792009-07-09T16:07:04.478-06:002009-07-09T16:07:04.478-06:00Breastfeeding can be really difficult. It took my ...Breastfeeding can be really difficult. It took my dd three months before she was able to latch on. It took alot of determination to keep trying for so long...but well worth it! <br /><br />I think it's a little over the top to compare formula feeding to not using a carseat or leaving kids in hot cars, though...<br /><br />Katie!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6157604130266547362.post-81655462120467266542009-07-09T16:00:29.717-06:002009-07-09T16:00:29.717-06:00I CAN COMMENT IF I USE GOOGLE CHROME! YES! FINAL...I CAN COMMENT IF I USE GOOGLE CHROME! YES! FINALLY!<br /><br />Go Holly!! <3<br /><br />I admire women who breastfeed and supplement with formula. Any amount of breastfeeding is better than none! I also feel for Courtney. Three people I feel close to have been unable to breastfeed their babies. At least they tried, and I will never judge them for that.<br /><br />I mean, I was a formula supplemented baby, and I think I turned out just fine! ;)Kamihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12157604768642762713noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6157604130266547362.post-24952813809418389312009-07-09T15:23:58.521-06:002009-07-09T15:23:58.521-06:00Thanks for this post Holly. I tried and tried for...Thanks for this post Holly. I tried and tried for 6 weeks to nurse my son and he never quite caught on. We took him to the doctor and he was not gaining weight- I think that he had gained a little less than 2 lbs from his birthweight at that point. The doctor suggested I try supplementing with formula while also pumping to see if that would help my milk production.<br /><br />I cannot tell you how I felt at that point. It was like I failed at the most basic of things- feeding my baby! The poor little guy was so hungry that he gulped down that first bottle, spit it all up, then wanted more. Pumping produced less than an ounce from both breasts, but I kept doing it because I wanted to give him <br />breastmilk in any way possible! After another 4 weeks of agony with the breast pump, I stopped producing milk altogether and we went to straight formula. My family was supportive- my doctors too- they all seemed to understand why I was so upset over not being able to breasfeed- they offered a lot of counseling and help when I needed it. It was a hard thing to give up!<br /><br />I can honestly say that I've felt judged by other moms because I gave my baby formula- as if I was doing something wrong. I didn't take the easy way out- I had to make a decision and do what was best for my baby. He finally started gaining weight and that was what was important to me. <br /><br />I plan on breastfeeding again with my next baby (whenever that may be)... I'm determined not to have one negative experience change my mind on what is best for my baby.Courtneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00207733477293637124noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6157604130266547362.post-82298376696773214332009-07-09T15:00:46.483-06:002009-07-09T15:00:46.483-06:00So right, Joy! That's exactly why I try to avo...So right, Joy! That's exactly why I try to avoid the term "bottle feeding" and use "formula feeding" instead. <br />8 months of pumping, that's incredible!Holly @ Domestic Dorkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05588020192381538681noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6157604130266547362.post-20980957562449795342009-07-09T14:57:47.247-06:002009-07-09T14:57:47.247-06:00Excellent post. I would also add to not assume th...Excellent post. I would also add to not assume that every bottle contains formula, there are moms who end up exclusively pumping for various reasons. My daughter had latch issues we could not overcome so I pumped for almost eight months. Keep up the great work!Joyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08553760391176072177noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6157604130266547362.post-65444754610845230722009-07-09T14:09:36.592-06:002009-07-09T14:09:36.592-06:00Oh you mean the book? You can't, not that I kn...Oh you mean the book? You can't, not that I know of. :( Just wishful thinking on my part.Holly @ Domestic Dorkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05588020192381538681noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6157604130266547362.post-82060206682932398622009-07-09T14:00:42.048-06:002009-07-09T14:00:42.048-06:00How do I get one of those for free? My sister in l...How do I get one of those for free? My sister in law has one that I used with Samantha,and I want to have one on hand for myself with the next one.JWalburgerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02766935884755087416noreply@blogger.com